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September 26, 2015
Hi I am the wife of a problem gambler . I have known about his gambling for 4 years now and nothing has changed. He has seeked counseling because I gave him an ultimatum and he only ever went once or twice. He continues to lie about money and tries to cover his tracks, the most recent time he took money out of our daughters savings account and put it in our joint account to try and cover what he took thinking I wouldn't find out. Im at a total loss at what to do..I feel like packing our kids up and leaving but then I know if I do that he's just going to continue gambling anyway. Please someone help.
January 17, 2014
Thanks for posting on the forum - it sounds like things have been really tough for you and your family and that you really need support at the moment.
It is normal to feel overwhelmed when you're in a situation like this - I can see that you've tried to get your partner help but he wasn't quite ready to make the changes necessary.That can be frustrating particularly when you are left to deal with the financial consequences.
From my experience working with problem gamblers and their families, there is no simple answer to this problem. But getting some support for yourself is always a good idea. As a gambling counsellor I have worked with many people whose partners are gambling. It is always good to talk to someone outside of the situation to 1. Have someone objective to talk to, 2. Figure out how to manage the situation and make change happen.
Everyone is different and I can only guess at the reasons that your partner is continuing to gamble. There are certainly things that will help with the situation, however, and I'd encourage you to get some support.
If you can call the Gambling Helpline on 1800 858 858, you can be linked in with a face to face counsellor who can give you more advice and guidance around finances and change. When you call up you can talk to one of the telephone counsellors about what is happening and get some guidance there as well.
all the best and take care,
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