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Close to losing it all & Somethings gotta give..
July 18, 2016
5:19 pm
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Hi All, new to this forum and needed to get this out there and out of my messed up head.. I'm so close to losing everything of meaning in my life by constantly by playing those addictive, cruel and evil pokies over and over again, while feeding my hard earnt $$$ down the poke runway for hours until i either collect a decent amount to walk away or until i have spent all money and have no more.. Im now staring down the barrel of losing everything of meaning in my life due to playing these "gaming machines" to the point of absolute madness... and something has to change before i lose it all.

I'm now left asking myself how did it ever get like this? i enjoyed the "occasional" flutter when i was younger but right now I'm 37 years old and clearly in over my head with massive personal debts and barely scraping by from pay to pay, week to week as a result of playing these gaming machines constantly. i have lied and not been truthful about where my money was going, and the resulting debts, which has caused tension and distrust in my home with my family.. i have changed as a person

i never used to do what I'm doing now as often as i do it now and i can't figure out why i allow myself to sit there and feed over and over thinking the feature has GOT TO COME... how i can i hit this button over and over without getting the all important FEATURE. Why do our governments allow such machines to be programmed to rob normal people of their hard earned money over and over again?? its not fair at all.

I'm not saying i haven't had decent wins over the years where I've been more then satisfied, nor am i expecting to win every single time i play but i don't expect to put my money in something that is clearly programmed from the outset to leave me angry or hopeful that if i put more in it surely has to come... Yet if i know this then why do i go back to them over end over and over?? why do i now find it so hard to walk away? have i lost all sense of reality and consequences of my actions or is it that i believe that once the "payout" comes , then everything will be alright? i still can't give myself a reason as to why? after all nobody makes me play them!!

i thought i was much smarter then really am.. but now when i look around my local venue/s i realise that i'm alike so many of these other "zombies" in society today who are completely at the mercy of the pokie gods.. waiting and hoping for something that never comes and losing a FORTUNE as time goes by. I've finally realised this is a TERRIBLE way to live for me personally and for those around me to see the changes in me over the years which have been caused by problem gaming over the years, and the financial, emotional and relationship problems that are experienced as a result..

Im seeking HELP now - but what i really want is for others not to end up in a similar misery caused by problem gambling.. this is a community problem which will only get worse as the years go by...

I'm finally coming to the end of the road as i now realise that somethings gotta give... Confused

August 5, 2016
8:50 pm
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Hi RJ,
Thanks very much for your post and apologies for the delay in responding. It sounds like you've reached an important point with your gambling and have glimpsed some of the damage it has caused. I'm really glad you've reached out and stated that you want to change - that is a huge step!
I would recommend as a first step, reaching out to other people on this forum and responding to any posts that you feel are relevant to you. It can also be a great first step to call the Helpline on 1800 858 858 to talk to a counsellor about some of the things you mentioned in your post. I can really hear that you are at a good stage of change, and perhaps the next step is getting some advice from experts about how to make those changes.
Please let me know what you think, and if you have any questions for me.

all the best,

Counsellor Sam

August 26, 2016
10:35 pm
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Hi, Just want to thank you for your post. I really relate to what at first seems like fun becoming a road to living Hell. I practice self exclusion in my small city where i live... U can find some gambling help agencies that will do a 'blanket' exclusion in your area.. I have had a big problem for ten years and exluding myself from the venues keeps me safe.. My brain is so damaged from playing that my mind will still tell me its ok for just one more paly and in the future I will stop. It never happens. Please reach out and do all you can ...andmaybe enquire about excluding in your area

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