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March 13, 2014
March 17, 2014
Tomorrow i am going to self exclude myself from my local club. I think it's going to help me from getting drawn into playing pokies. has anyone else self excluded and did it help?
Hey Somer, i self excluded from my local hotel where i was gambling and it has helped me, i decided to check out if would really work, i went to my local to have a beer after work and sat in pokie area, i wasn't gambling and had myself in a good head space about my gambling, the duty manager came to talk with me quietly and told me i needed to leave the area, he was great and i was really impressed that he cared enough to ask me to leave. I did my self exclusion with my gambling counsellor at his office and he was great too, i still struggle but i am finding it easier since i self excluded and i see my counsellor. I hope this helps ya mate - busted
March 13, 2014
March 17, 2014
November 20, 2014
Hey busted. Thanks for letting me know. Well I did it. I feel a bit weird about it but just knowing I did it makes me feel like I am on the right path. I still feel the urge to go down to the club though. Somer
Hi there, I am back on the forums after a long while but it feels better talking this time around. Let me explain. I self excluded from my local club too and yes it helps immensely. I haven't played the pokies for over two years and after I self excluded I also did a lot of work on myself in terms of understanding my habit and getting a little counselling to help me understand how the pokies work. One thing you must realise as I am, is that as many habits and issues form in our lives relapses may and can occur as has happened to myself a few times and knowing how you may deal with it and/or prepare for how to deal with it. I have had a relapse this week however I managed to slow my thought processes down, talk myself into walking out of the venue and accepting and moving on from there.
Recently I had a coffee with a friend at an RSL near her not that far from me and not my local, and I signed up only because I meet her there a few times a year. I was mindful that it was a risk I was taking but did it anyway. Wanted to feel normal again. But I too relapsed one night this week after experiencing the possibility of job loss and huge changes at work and was experiencing stress I obviously wasn't coping with.
I have to say though that this time after so many relapses in the past I am ok. I accept what I have done to myself again. I accept the money is gone. I am willing and feel stronger this time round to move forward from this and dig even deeper within myself to understand what it was that led me there again that I couldn't stop or control and perhaps work on this. It is the urges, the blinding urges that sneek up on you and take you on this ride that you cant get off that are the hardest thing to get on top of. But I am persevere and I can say that the more I have to deal with relapses the stronger I am getting in dealing with it all. I feel ok. The first thing that came to mind was get back online and talk. Talk to those out there who understand and who we can help each other through it. I can also say to you, I am in my public working life, a dependable hardworking person, good at many things and I look like I am together, strong willed and minded and many think I am a strong successful person. But here I am on this continuous secret journey which few of my trusted friends know that I am on. An inner journey of a recovering Gambler. I came home after my losses, after two years of getting on top of things financially; and I got on to my accounts, rearranged my finances again. I have been set back again financially but what I told myself tonight was Hey Chris! move forward and deal with it. Accept responsibility. And put my thoughts on learning from what I can learn from this relapse.
Just wanted to share this tonight.
Good luck everyone. Its good to know one is not alone!
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